Give Compliments to Uplift Others

November 12, 2018

Few years ago I wouldn’t agree with anyone that you should nod to compliments. It may be because I see it as tool used by exploitative people. In Nigeria, someone who wants to drain you would come with all sorts of compliments that cannot be rooted in anything.

 

Compliment is the first step in the rulebook for “How to Use People to Your Advantage”. To give compliment, you ought to be sure of the strength of the person at the receiving end. You should compliment, based on realistic statistics. You should not see an obviously lazy person and tell them that they are hard working, except you wish to be ironical.

 

Everyone would appreciate sincere and verified compliments. And there are salient ones that come from some mini research, so that one may not know that they possess such strength and may feel aggrieved over things that haven’t worked or failed businesses and not take notice of all the good things that they are capable of.

 

 

It is the place of a good compliment to embody these and reveal the strength of the people involved. Blind compliment comes from nothingness and it is barely sustained. The people who may appreciate it are folks who loved to be worshipped. They are people who love false worshippers around them. But the real compliment, when it comes, you can weigh it and see that it is coming from a very treasured place. I believe that we all need compliments.

 

We can make use of real and sincere compliments once in a while. We need to understand that we are beautiful, through the mouth of a third party. A lover has such power to transform us with great compliments of who we are. When someone who is close to you calls you selfish, you review your life at a split second especially if you’re someone who likes to do retrospection. You may want to know why such person made the statement, especially if he had not provoked it.

 

The people who give us compliment are important. It is same thing that happens when an enemy speaks well of you behind you. It means a lot to you because the person is an enemy and the expectation is evil but when that evil transcend to birth good opinion about you, it is fantastic. I would love to hear that I write well and I am pointed to an article, a sentence, a philosophy or the use of language. If all I get are bad responses from the people who read from me, it would affect my mind and one day, I may stop writing because I do not feel needed enough. I may lose the opportunity to do better.

 

Good compliment from a good place makes you never want to give up. Few years ago I wouldn’t agree with anyone that you should nod to compliments. It may be because I see it as tool used by exploitative people. In Nigeria, someone who wants to drain you would come with all sorts of compliments that cannot be rooted in anything. Compliment is the first step in the rulebook for “How to Use People to Your Advantage”. To give compliment, you ought to be sure of the strength of the person at the receiving end. You should compliment, based on realistic statistics. You should not see an obviously lazy person and tell them that they are hard working, except you wish to be ironical.

 

Everyone would appreciate sincere and verified compliments. And there are salient ones that come from some mini research, so.... ​​

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